Unwritten Korea

Friends & Social Life · 나이

Why Koreans ask your age before your name

It isn't nosiness. Knowing who is older helps Koreans decide how to talk to you. The hidden grammar of a first meeting, and what changed when Korea dropped 'Korean age' in 2023.

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Dating & Marriage · 연애

Dating a Korean boyfriend: the unwritten rules (and the K-drama myths)

Day-one anniversaries, nonstop KakaoTalk, couple outfits, who pays, 'oppa', meeting his parents and the army. What dating a Korean man is often like, why, and what's changing.

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Dating & Marriage · 연애

Dating a Korean girlfriend: the unwritten rules (and the ones you can ignore)

Check-in texts, 100-day anniversaries, couple outfits, who pays, 'oppa', her friends and her parents. The Korean dating habits worth knowing, why they exist, and how to talk about them without stereotypes.

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Food & Table · 밥 먹었어?

Why Koreans say 'Have you eaten?' instead of hello

"밥 먹었어?" isn't really about lunch. How a greeting shaped by hungry decades became Korea's way of saying 'I care about you', and the other food phrases that hide feelings.

A shot of soju being passed across a Korean restaurant table

Food & Table · 술자리

Turn your head, use two hands: Korean drinking etiquette, ranked by how much it matters

Why you don't pour your own soju, why the youngest turns away to drink, what 'one shot' really means, and how to say no to a drink without offending anyone. The rules, and the reasons behind them.

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Food & Table · 반찬 더 주세요

Free side dishes, self-serve water and who sets the spoons: Korean restaurant culture explained

Why banchan refills are free, why you pour your own water, why the youngest lays out spoons and chopsticks, what the table bell is for, and how paying works at a Korean restaurant.

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Money & Gifts · 축의금

How much cash goes in a Korean wedding envelope (and why families keep a ledger)

At most Korean weddings, guests give cash rather than gifts. The 2024-2025 survey numbers on how much people give, the attend-vs-send rule, how the reception desk works, and the unspoken rule of giving it back.

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nunchi · "eye-measure"

Nobody tells you the meeting is over. A chair shifts, the talk turns to traffic, and everyone stands at once except you. How good is your nunchi? Ten real situations, and the reason behind every answer.

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